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Dating in Sobriety

How do you date in sobriety? Whether you’re new in sobriety or have some sober time under your belt, learning to date without drinking or using drugs can feel daunting. You may be asking yourself all kinds of questions:


  • How long should I be sober before I start dating?

  • How will I meet someone?

  • Should I date only other sober people?

  • Will I be okay dating people who drink?

  • When should I disclose my sobriety or recovery journey to someone who doesn’t drink?

  • Will they be scared off by my sober status or the things I have done while I was drinking or using?

  • How will I be able to kiss someone without being buzzed? 

  • What if I've never had sex sober?

If you’ve asked yourself any of the above or similar questions, you are not alone! Learning to date sober takes practice.  Re- learning how to approach dates and relationships as healthy, sober people takes time.


Below are three of my favorite tips for beginning to date sober.

1.  Put your sobriety first.

Do not endanger your sobriety. No date is worth putting yourself in harm's way.


While I strongly suggest spending the first year of sobriety single, regardless of how much sober time you have, make staying sober priority number one. You must protect your sobriety!


This may mean suggesting dates that will not involve drinking, like going on a walk at a nearby park.  You also probably want to avoid meeting in a bar or a restaurant that you associate with your old drinking days.

If you ever feel uncomfortable or tempted to drink on a date, remember that you can always cut the date short and leave.

2.  Clarify what you truly want out of dating.

Do you want to date just to meet new people and have fun? Are you looking for a serious relationship? Maybe something in between?


There is no right or wrong answer to the above questions, but getting clear on your reasons for dating before embarking on your first sober date will help guide you along your journey. If you know you want a serious relationship and you go on a date with someone who says they’re not looking for anything serious, then you will know that’s not your person. However, if you go in unclear about what you want and then find yourself attracted to someone who knows what they want, you may do yourself a disservice by adopting their preference, only to later discover that you wanted something different all along.


Save yourself the time and heartache by clarifying your relationship ideals so that you can stay true to yourself throughout the dating or relationship process!

3.  Be yourself.

A lot of alcoholics and addicts struggle to feel comfortable in their own skin. Many of us drank in order to feel more confident, funny, and adventurous (I know I did!). But showing up sober and learning to be more comfortable in your own skin is the majority of the recovery process.


You don’t have to put on a show for your date. Showing up confident in who you are and that you are worthy of love and companionship is critical in any dating scenario, regardless of whether you're in recovery. After all, don’t you want to learn who your date truly is rather than getting to know a façade?

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If you have read this far, commend yourself on bravely considering and venturing into the fabulous world of sober dating and relationships! From personal experience, I understand the trials and tribulations of sober dating, and I can attest that sober dating is better than drunk dating.

I’d love to be a resource for you on your sober dating journey. If you would like to discuss your ideal dating or relationship experience, schedule a complementary clarity call, in which we will focus on your dating and relationship ideals and goals for 30 minutes. If, at the end of the 30 minutes, you want to hear more about working with me or resources that I recommend free of charge, we can do that as well.

Happy sober dating!


Sober Dating

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Hi, Sober Dater!


I hope these sober dating tips serve you on your path to happy dating and relationships!


If you'd like to clarify your dating and relationship goals and ideals, let me help!

I offer complimentary Clarity Calls to help you clarify your big dreams and steps towards your dreams.  We'll also have the opportunity to get to know one another and talk about additional support and resources to help you along your journey.


Go ahead.  Book yours.  What do you have to lose? 


I can't wait to meet you.



Coaching for Singles

What does a dating coach for singles do?

Hello, fabulous single person! As your dating coach, I'm your wing-woman extraordinaire.  I'm like the best friend who tells you the truth (nicely) and helps you change how you think about yourself, dating, relationships, sex - you name it, we can coach on it.  Whether you're already cruising for a date or partner or feeling a little gun-shy about putting yourself out there, I will actively partner with you on your path to showing up as your best self on dates and in relationships.

You might be a good fit to work with me if:

  • You're single and ready to mingle, but you don't want to repeat your past dating mistakes.

  • You find yourself repeatedly involved with "commitment-phobes" or "toxic" partners.

  • You want to settle down and find the *right* person, but the *right* people just don't seem exciting.

  • You have great first, second, and third dates and then . . . nothing materializes.

  • You have a hard time expressing what you want and need in a relationship.

  • You aren't clear on what you want or are looking for in a date or partner.

  • You're sick and tired of the merry-go-round of online dating and want to meet someone in real life.

If any of the above sound familiar or you just want some clarity on how to get un-stuck, schedule your Complimentary Clarity Call, and we'll get you on your way!


Coaching for Couples
Singles Coaching

What does a relationship coach for couples or people already in a relationship do?

If you're in a relationship and wanting to enhance or repair your relationship, well done!  Relationships take effort and constant communication to be truly successful.  


For people in relationships, I offer coaching to the couple (both people together, separately, or a combination of together and separately).  I also work one on one with people in a relationship who want to improve how they communicate and show up with their partner.

You might be a good fit to work with me if:

  • You want to reignite the "spark" you once felt with and for your partner.

  • You struggle to express what you want and need in your relationship.

If any of the above sound familiar or you just want some clarity on how to get un-stuck, schedule your Complimentary Clarity Call, and we'll get you on your way!


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~Confidence coaching

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