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High-Emotion Holidays:
Everything in our lives constantly changes. We tend to notice the big changes; we cannot see the infinitesimal, microscopic changes like cellular turnover; and even if we're highly aware of certain changes, our reactions to them also change over time and circumstances. The holidays can amplify our focus on and feelings about life changes, and it's normal to compare previous years' holiday festivities to this year's. Things Hit Differently during the Holidays For example,

lilyhshanks
Dec 17, 20253 min read


Reflections on my 7-year sobriety birthday
7 years ago today was my first day of sobriety. The day before, I took my last drink and finally reached out for help. It dawned on me...

lilyhshanks
Sep 4, 20253 min read
Is it something you can or cannot change? (aka, the wisdom to know the difference)
Great news, friend! Change is possible. You certainly can change yourself (whether you choose to is another matter). But you do not have...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20234 min read
Why do you struggle to change?
One way to define resistance is: “the refusal to accept or comply with something; the attempt to prevent something by action or argument.”...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20233 min read
Accepting that I cannot change others
Reminder: Acceptance (to me) does not entail endorsing, condoning, or approving of a behavior, person, place, or thing. Rather, it is the...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20233 min read
Acceptance is key.
How would your life improve if you accepted yourself, exactly as you are today? Regardless of whether you identify as spiritual or...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20232 min read
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