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Don't Get Holi-Dazed! Make a Plan
With the holidays just around the corner, I’m hearing the usual cocktail of emotions from clients and friends alike: excitement and overwhelm, anticipation and anxiety, and lots of concern over “how will I ever get everything done?!” Yes, ‘tis the season of jolliness and joy, giving and receiving gifts, and making memories with friends and family. Yet the holidays also pack a not-so-festive punch for many people. Some may already be struggling, for example, with depression

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4 days ago4 min read


Reflections on my 7-year sobriety birthday
7 years ago today was my first day of sobriety. The day before, I took my last drink and finally reached out for help. It dawned on me...

lilyhshanks
Sep 43 min read
Is it something you can or cannot change? (aka, the wisdom to know the difference)
Great news, friend! Change is possible. You certainly can change yourself (whether you choose to is another matter). But you do not have...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20234 min read
Why do you struggle to change?
One way to define resistance is: “the refusal to accept or comply with something; the attempt to prevent something by action or argument.”...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20233 min read
Accepting that I cannot change others
Reminder: Acceptance (to me) does not entail endorsing, condoning, or approving of a behavior, person, place, or thing. Rather, it is the...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20233 min read
Acceptance is key.
How would your life improve if you accepted yourself, exactly as you are today? Regardless of whether you identify as spiritual or...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20232 min read


The freedom of commitment
Today, on July 4th – a day associated with independence in the U.S. – I challenge you to ask yourself: how can you become a tiny bit...

lilyhshanks
Jul 4, 20224 min read


No regrets? How to forgive yourself and learn from your past to create a brighter future
Regrets, I’ve had a few, but then again, too few to mention. ~written by Paul Anka, performed by Frank Sinatra How many times have you...

lilyhshanks
May 4, 20224 min read
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