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Don't Get Holi-Dazed! Make a Plan
With the holidays just around the corner, I’m hearing the usual cocktail of emotions from clients and friends alike: excitement and overwhelm, anticipation and anxiety, and lots of concern over “how will I ever get everything done?!” Yes, ‘tis the season of jolliness and joy, giving and receiving gifts, and making memories with friends and family. Yet the holidays also pack a not-so-festive punch for many people. Some may already be struggling, for example, with depression

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4 days ago4 min read


Reflections on my 7-year sobriety birthday
7 years ago today was my first day of sobriety. The day before, I took my last drink and finally reached out for help. It dawned on me...

lilyhshanks
Sep 43 min read


Fake it 'til you make it isn't a long-term strategy.
"Fake it 'til you make it" is good advice sometimes. For example, when we're nervous before speaking at a conference or meeting and...

lilyhshanks
Aug 253 min read
Is it something you can or cannot change? (aka, the wisdom to know the difference)
Great news, friend! Change is possible. You certainly can change yourself (whether you choose to is another matter). But you do not have...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20234 min read
Accepting that I cannot change others
Reminder: Acceptance (to me) does not entail endorsing, condoning, or approving of a behavior, person, place, or thing. Rather, it is the...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20233 min read
Acceptance is key.
How would your life improve if you accepted yourself, exactly as you are today? Regardless of whether you identify as spiritual or...

lilyhshanks
Nov 19, 20232 min read
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